Well I did it! I entered NaNoWriMo for the very first time, and I succeeded, and I won. Tonight at midnight I validated my novel with 50,168 words.
The best thing is, I haven’t even finished yet but I am so close to the end I can taste it, and it is sweet!
I’m a #NaNoWriMo 2011 Winner! LGBT fantasy book writer Catherine Green
I’m a #NaNoWriMo 2011 Winner
It has been a long, hard month. My poor baby daughter has become very well-acquainted with her toys and the popular British children’s TV channel CBeebies. I haven’t cleaned the bathroom in a long time, but I did vacuum the house vaguely, and I have dusted in the last two weeks, I think.
My laptop and home computer have been used and abused, and my husband barely knows who I am. I have stayed up late practically every evening, and got up early in the mornings, and neglected any number of household chores and jobs on my to-do list. But it doesn’t matter, because I won something! I didn’t win a specific item such as a cash prize or a gift.
I printed a beautiful certificate with my name on, and I now have an almost-complete first draft novel which will be edited during the next two months, and then despatched to various agents and publishers for approval. It will be published next year, though the time depends upon the final publisher.
Congratulations fellow NaNoWriMo winners, and to everyone who participated in the challenge. It was fun, and inspiring, and motivating, and totally worth it.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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I have just read a heart-warming post from the co-owner of Bridge House publishing, who very kindly accepted and published my first vampire short storyThe Teen Game in their anthology Devils, Demons and Werewolves.
Read my blog post to see the link and join a supportive and positive indie writer community for independent book writers and small publishers. We are just as valid and just as worthy of having our hard work recognised and appreciated as those big name famous authors from the big publishers.
Devils Demons and Werewolves Short Story Anthology featuring vampire writer Catherine Hargreaves aka LGBT Fantasy Book Writer Catherine Green
Bridge House publishing
Debz talks about the passion of the indie writer, and she is correct. We write because we have to. We would love to receive generous financial rewards for our efforts, but to see our work in print, in a beautiful, collectible book, is a delight and a pleasure that you cannot understand unless you, too are a writer.
Read it for yourself and see what you think: Going indie.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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November is National Novel Writing Month, or #NaNoWriMo to everybody involved or aware of it. This is an international competition, which has no prizes and no entry fees. Participants are simply expected to write a novel with a word total of 50,000 during the month.
It is a wonderfully simple way of motivating yourself to finally write that story that has been festering in your head for all these months or years.
I’m a #NaNoWriMo 2011 Winner! LGBT fantasy book writer Catherine Green.
#NaNoWriMo
I have entered this competition. Having published my debut paranormal romance novel, Love Hurts (A Redcliffe Novel), in July this year, I now need to write the sequel. Indeed I need to write the whole Redcliffe novels series, but this is my starting point. I decided that NaNoWriMo would be the ideal opportunity. It would motivate me to actually finish another piece of work, instead of procrastinating and avoiding the inevitable.
My sequel is called Love Kills (A Redcliffe Novel)ย and picks up the story of Cornish bookshop owner Jessica Stone as she recovers from her life threatening injuries sustained from a werewolf attack.ย She is settling back into normal life, but struggling to deal with the reality of having a vampire boyfriend, and werewolf friends.ย She is also working through the revelations that she is a witch, and deciding whether she wants to pursue her training and unlock her powers and abilities.
Finally, Jessicaโs best friend and business partner has just given birth. The new baby will throw up all sorts of challenges between the friends, and also between Jessica and her lover Jack Mason. That is where my story stands at the moment. As of today (Monday 7th November), my word total is 19,148, and I am very pleased with that. It was easy to start my novel because the story was already in my head. Indeed, I had begun the story while I finished writing Love Hurts, but I had to separate the novels out, and make time to write Love Kills.
That is why NaNoWriMo is important to me. I have informed all of my close friends and family about the competition, and warned them that I will become a social hermit while I get my novel finished. My plan is to complete the 50,000 words, and hopefully even write more than that as quickly as possible. I certainly have the story; I just need to find time to write it around my duties of motherhood and housework. But now that I have told people, they will expect me to complete this challenge, and that is my motivation. NaNoWriMo, I will succeed!
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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Carnfield Hall is a beautiful privately owned home in Derbyshire, UK, dating back to the 1500s. Read my blog post to see how my sister and I experienced an overnight ghost hunt at Carnfield Hall on Halloween.
Ghost Hunter Diaries: Carnfield Hall
Ghost Hunter Diaries: Carnfield Hall
We were told that there has been a dwelling on that site since the 1000s, so you can imagine our excitement at what a ghost hunt here might reveal. During the evening we were told a little about the buildingโs history by its current owner, Heidi. She told us that the house was derelict during the 1960s and 1970s, and was then bought and renovated by a man called James. He rediscovered many of the original artefacts from the site, and reinstated them into their home. Heidi and her partner moved into the Hall earlier this year, where they are now continuing the renovation project.
Mysteria Paranormal Events, run by John and Sue, hosted our event. John is a medium and energy worker, and we did some interesting experiments and sรฉances throughout the night. During the walk round we all started to feel spirit energies. In the attic rooms, several people in our group, including myself, sensed young children playing. A few people also saw an adult hanging from one of the roof beams. One person mentioned a connection with apples or an orchard. Later in the evening, on a return vigil, I actually smelt apples while in that very room, and I had not noticed it earlier.
In the Lady’s bedroom
In a ladyโs bedroom we found an interest with the floorboards. Our guest medium Ian Lawman connected with a young boy, who kept disappearing through the floor, but we could not establish a reason or explanation for this. One suggestion was that the spirit was telling us that some of the floorboards were not original, or that they were in the wrong place. There was a beautifully ornate fireplace in this room, and I saw a lady writing letters to someone she was very fond of. I also smelt cigarette smoke, and so did a few people in our group.
In another bedroom, one currently occupied by the owner, Spirit told me that there should have been a carpet on the floor. There is currently a rug in the centre of the room, and the polished wooden floorboards. Ian told us that this room had been cleansed to remove previous negative energies. Apparently this was true. Ian also said that there was still some activity in here, but that it was far less intimidating than it had been. We sensed that the Drawing Room was a very busy place for spirit activity, and indeed we had an interesting time there later in the evening.
Ghost Hunter Diaries: Carnfield Hall Four Poster Bed
Vigil in the attic
Our first vigil was with John in the attic. We used a conducting rope to build energy and assist Spirit to communicate. It is a copper fibre rope with clear quartz crystals arranged at regularly spaced intervals. I was fascinated with this piece of kit, and I felt that it was very powerful and a useful tool for a larger group.
Using ourselves as human pendulums we spoke to a man named Adrian. I saw him as quite an arrogant man, and he gave me an image of him kicking a small lapdog as it ran past. He did not hurt the dog, but this was simply a demonstration of his attitude and behaviour when he was alive. Adrian identified himself as a stable worker during the 1800s. He was a man who turned nasty after consuming alcohol. He died after getting into a drunken brawl and being stabbed with a knife. Adrian said that one of the women in our group resembled his mother. Using two people as conductors, he reached out to touch her face. Then he left, satisfied with his communication.
A ghost child
My sister Emily saw a small boy in the attic room while we were conducting the sรฉance. She said that he was jumping up and down trying to reach out for peopleโs hands, but he couldnโt quite reach. A few people were also given the surname Matthews as something significant. Ian sensed a woman with schizophrenia in what we think was once an attic storeroom. I saw a young woman who would often be imprisoned in this room as punishment. Ian believed it was one of her schizophrenic personalities connecting with me. She simply gave me an image of her slumped on the floor, and occasionally gazing out of the window. She was a tall, slim woman with long black hair, and I think she was aged around 25.
An interesting experience in the attic rooms was dizziness. As soon as I set foot in there on our walk round, I felt dizzy and my legs were wobbly. It was as though I had just stepped off the Waltzers in a fairground and was struggling to regain my balance. The floors were uneven in these rooms, but I have never experienced any sensations quite so strong in an old building. At one point I had to steady myself against the wall, and a few times I started to feel my head spin. Several other people in the group also reported similar experiences.
Vigil in a bedroom
On our second vigil Ian split our group up so we could work in separate rooms.ย Emily and I were taken to a bedroom where there was apparently a hidden priest hole that no-one had ever discovered.ย We didnโt find it.ย As we entered this bedroom, Ian asked us how we felt.ย We actually felt quite comfortable, even happy in here.ย Ian was surprised because most people report feeling uneasy and frightened. The rumour is that there is a negative energy in there. We didnโt encounter it.ย We did connect with a teenage girl, however.ย I felt that she was a mischievous spirit, and she would make noises and touch the bedcovers simply to make people jump.ย My camera fascinated her, and I ended up taking quite a few photos in that room at her request. I did find orbs on several of these photos, but no physical manifestation.ย Emily and I did hear a lot of tapping noises, but we think it was the tree branches hitting the windows.
After that we all moved into another room for a sรฉance. This was a bedroom where I felt uneasy at first entrance. It felt masculine to me, and I was intimidated. Emily saw a man having a heart attack and dying on the rug. He even showed her the position in which he lay. I saw a man who was overweight and quite red in the face. He wasnโt an unpleasant man, but there was something about him that made me uneasy. During the sรฉance one woman suddenly started crying, although she didnโt know why. Shortly after, Emily also felt a strong urge to cry.
In this room Ian connected with a black servant named Victor. He was a gardener and I sensed that he only came into the house to repair or remove furniture. I saw that he died peacefully in his sleep, and lived a happy life there. He lived at the house before the windows had shutters. I saw Victor as a tall, wiry figure, with hair that was changing colour but not going grey. He had an angular face, and was always smiling.
Ghost Hunter Diaries: Carnfield Hall Main Entrance Hall
Ghosts in the Drawing Room
Our vigil in the Drawing Room was very active. We heard movement behind the bedroom doors, and several people in our group were pushed or pulled at different times. Ian saw two men discussing architectural plans for a single storey timber framed building, or possibly an extension to the house. One man was military, and was a man of rank, although Ian couldnโt say exactly what. Emily and a few other women saw a young woman with a baby. I saw her as suffering with postnatal depression. She was desperately trying to hand the baby over to Emily and the women stood next to her, because this young woman could not take care of it herself.
I saw a man and a woman making love on the rug before the fire, which was something I havenโt come across before! The woman was a Lady, and the man was her visitor. A servant saw them. The scene kept replaying over and over, every time I looked at the rug, sort of like a video recording. It was very strange.
Sรฉance in the Dining Room
Our sรฉance in the Dining Room was also very interesting. Several people were made to cough and splutter, and had itchy faces. Ian said this was a memory of the smallpox that had ravaged the area some centuries ago. Heidi and a few other people sat beside her saw a large, dark object sitting on the table in front of them. It never moved, but it unnerved them. As soon as we turned the lights on, or shone a torch in the vicinity, it disappeared. Once the room was in darkness, it was there again for the whole duration of our vigil.
The tension in this room grew, and some people saw flashing lights on the walls behind where Ian was sitting. We heard several tapping noises on the wood panelling but could not be certain if it was spirit energy. I felt that something was building up strength from the energy in this room in order to make a huge noise and frighten us all. In fact, I prepared to hear a loud bang. Fortunately we decided to move out and continue our investigations elsewhere.
In the Library we used a Franks box to try and communicate. This is a device through which spirits can communicate using radio waves and white noise. We heard a voice saying โhelloโ and โhiโ but the energy was weak, and we soon gave up and continued to another room.
An exciting Ghost Hunt
All in all, Carnfield Hall was one active and exciting place to be. I absolutely loved the building because of its energy and history. It was amazing to discover that it had been there, and yet it is hidden away from public knowledge. Apparently, the previous owner had offered to donate it to English Heritage, but they were unable to accept because they didnโt think it could pay its way. I only hope that its current owners can continue with the restoration work, and I would certainly consider visiting it again. I also enjoyed working with Ian Lawman, and I highly recommend Mysteria Paranormal Events. They were brilliant organizers, and I really felt that we were well cared for, and that we were encouraged to participate rather than just observe in the activity.
“Spirit Sisters” Catherine and Emily with John from Mysteria Events at Carnfield Hall Halloween Ghost Hunt.
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I am currently on maternity leave from my part-time job as a shop assistant at Mothercare. Although the job was only ever going to be a โfill-inโ role for me while I sorted out my career prospects, I did enjoy my brief time working there. The staff are lovely and I enjoyed interacting with customers (at least the pleasant ones).
But the time came when I had to make a final decision on whether to return to work or not after having my baby.
Paranormal Author Catherine Green
I Quit the Day Job for my Family
Since I finally published my debut novel and am now developing a series based on the supernatural creatures living in a fictional Cornish town, my husband and I agreed that I should not return to the day job. Our main reason for this decision was that it is simply not worth it for the money. I actually earned more money from statutory maternity pay than I did from my weekly wage. I find this quite a ridiculous notion, that it pays better for me to stay home with a baby than it does to actually go out to work.
Part of the financial factor was the estimated cost of childcare. We would be paying a minimum of ยฃ30 per day for our daughter to attend a nursery, and then there is the added travel cost and associated stress for me. Besides, I want to be there with my child for her first few years. I donโt want to miss anything in her development. We are fortunate enough that we can just about manage on one wage, although we literally are clawing our way through each month.
Giving up a regular job
The bizarre thing is, that while I have known all along that I wonโt return to work, it was hard to actually write the resignation letter and hand it over. I have had a job of some sort since I was 15 years old. Even while I was at university I always had guaranteed seasonal work during the spring, summer and winter holidays. Now, I have no set place of work to attend. And it feels strange, like I have given up a huge part of my personal independence.
I am still working. My job is now full-time writer, using our dining room as my office while I simultaneously care for our baby. In fact, life is far more hectic now than it was when I was at work. But it is also far more enjoyable and rewarding. My husband and I are on a long, hard slog to the top of our respective professions, but I recognize that we are at least both practicing those vocations, as opposed to just dreaming about them. And for me, that is worth giving up my financial independence for a short time.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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Since becoming pregnant my social life has picked up enormously.
This may sound surprising, but for the last four years I have pretty much done nothing but work in a full time office job, and spent my evenings and weekends either studying or doing housework.
My husband and I are of the โlostโ generation of graduates who are now struggling with an impossibly huge mortgage, and a backlog of debt, leaving little room for holidays and social events.
Middlewich Lovely Ladies at Tatton Park in Cheshire, England.
The NCT Mums of Cheshire East at Tatton Park
When I got pregnant I contacted the organizer of my local NCT (National Childbirth Trust) group, after hearing about the charity from a friend. Amazingly, this lady lives in my home town and we have become good friends in a short space of time. We would have been friends without the children, but we never had the opportunity to meet. Similarly I have made friends with other people who joined the group, all of whom had babies at around the same time. We all agree that it is strange how it took us to have children before we actually โdiscoveredโ each other.
As a way of easing the often stressful life of being a mother with young children, we meet up once a week for a scheduled coffee morning. We visit each otherโs houses, and sometimes we take a ride out somewhere for a change of scenery. This week we visited Tatton Park in Knutsford, Cheshire. It is a place that I have been meaning to visit for many years, and never got round to. It is beautiful!
Tatton Park, Knutsford
We parked at an entrance on the outskirts of Knutsford town centre, and walked for about an hour through the grounds, before arriving at the coffee shop. It was a fine, sunny day in early October, and the temperature was still fairly warm. Perfect weather for walking! Our children enjoyed watching the sheep, fellow visitors, and even the occasional deer as we walked along, and the mums had a lovely time deep in conversation.
At the coffee shop we all indulged in a little cake and coffee. I chose my current favourite, a mocha to drink, and a rocky road chocolate cake to eat. Delicious! I was surprised at how busy Tatton Park was on this midweek day. There were people using the grounds for cycling, running, and there were several other mums with pushchairs and young children as well. Along with the extensive grounds, Tatton Park boasts a stately home, gift and garden shops, the aforementioned coffee shop, and childrenโs playground.
Children in the playground
After our refreshment we took the children into the playground. My daughter had a fantastic time on the swings, and I took some really cute photos to show her daddy when he returned home from work. It was a bonus when she had a long daytime nap as well, since this is something of a rarity with my baby. She played with her friends, enjoyed the fresh air, and was very happy indeed.
It was a lovely daytrip, and I am extremely thankful to have such a wonderful group of friends, and such a beautiful place to visit right on my doorstep. This life is so much better than the one I was living eighteen months ago, thatโs for sure. And the NCT is a brilliant charity. It helps to stop us mums from getting too overwhelmed with parenthood, and there are plenty of activities and studies to get involved with if we feel the need.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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Last weekend I attended my second book signing event to promote my paranormal romance novel Love Hurts (A Redcliffe Novel).
The event took place at Waterstones Bookseller in Hanley, Stoke-on-Trent, UK. This was my home town so I was very excited.
I have spent many years wandering around this book shop, dreaming about the day when I might see my own work on the shelves. And now that day has come!
Love Hurts A Redcliffe Novel by paranormal author Catherine Green
Indie Author Event at Waterstones Book Shop, Hanley
The lovely staff welcomed me to their store, gave me a mug of coffee, and showed me to my special table in the centre of the ground floor retail space. I was facing the main entrance, in a nice open place, with the tills adjacent. The perfect location to see all the customers and for them to see me.
I had actually been sat for a few minutes before I even saw the large display stand full of my books next to the table! My heart gave a little leap of excitement, and I peered round to have a better look. Yes, there they were. A whole collection of books, above which hung a large banner announcing that local author Catherine Green was in store to sign copies of her new book.
The staff had printed some leaflets and had distributed them amongst customers for a few weeks before my event. I found this very touching, and a lovely gesture, since I hadnโt actually been able to get some leaflets produced myself. I am still learning the ropes, so to speak. I had gotten some mentions in local newspapers and magazines, so I was hoping this would help. And of course, I had plastered my event all over the social networks for weeks in advance, and told people as I went along.
Waiting for a customer
As it was, the shop was almost empty all day long. On this day, the 1st October 2011, the sun shone on the UK. We had some of the hottest temperatures on record, and people were not in the mood to shop. I was most annoyed. Where is the rain when you need it? We should be wearing jeans and jumpers now, not shorts and t-shirts!
There was nothing else for it. I had to pluck up some courage, approach people, and coerce them into buying my book. The Paranormal Romance and Dark Fantasy sections were located near the main entrance, so I practically wore a path in the carpet every time somebody walked in and paused there. I would hurry over to them, trying not to look like a bird of prey swooping in for the kill. Fortunately most people were very polite, and agreed to take a look at my book.
By the end of my four-hour attendance, I had sold seven books. Not an impressive number, but very satisfactory under the circumstances. Aside from this I had spoken to a book reviewer for the local influential newspaper, and he said he will feature my book shortly. This just goes to show that you never know what contacts you might make if you creep out of your dark writerโs space, and mingle in the wider world, even for a short time.
Now, who shall I visit next? I shall consult the list given to me by the manager of the Hanley store. Watch this space for more eventsโฆ
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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I am struggling at the moment to find time to sit down and write all of the stories in my head. I have a young baby, a family, and all the associated housework to deal with before I can focus on my writing.
Unfortunately the writing has to be a side-line to my role as Mother. But I wouldnโt have it any other way.
Love Kills A Redcliffe Novel by paranormal author Catherine Green
Stories in my Head
Anyway, just because I canโt physically write up the stories, does not mean they donโt exist. For example, I am currently attempting to write the sequel to my recently published paranormal romance novel Love Hurts. I have written a rough draft of about the first five chapters of Love Kills. In my head, I am probably on about chapter twelve, or possibly even further along. It gets a little confusing.
My stories are a good source of escapism while I stand before the kitchen sink, or clean out the turtle tank, or do the ironing, or vacuuming, or any number of other boring household tasks. I even formulate stories while in the shower, or in bed, out walking, or even when I am out in the car. My characters take on their own lives, and draw me in as a spectator. It is my job to remember what they tell me, and commit it to paper (or computer) as soon as possible.
Embarrassing side effects
Sometimes it can be embarrassing, like the time I headbutted a neighbourโs hanging basket because I was engrossed in my personal fictional dialogue. Other times people can be talking to me and I simply donโt hear them. I sort of snap out of a daydream, and have to wake up to the reality around me. I am sure this is not an isolated situation. I must be one of a million writers in a similar position.
Maybe I should invest in a Dictaphone, and dictate my stories while I work. Perhaps then I can at least have something to write up at a later date. I find sometimes that when I actually get to the physical writing stage, my stories fly off on a tangent, totally different from what I had originally imagined. Sometimes this works, sometimes not. I must be away to bed soon as the night is moving on. Who knows which story I will dip into, and where I will travel before sleep takes overโฆ
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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I recently attended my very first book-signing event. It took place at Waterstones bookseller in Crewe, Cheshire in the North of England.
I did not know what to expect so I was faintly nervous but approached it with an open mind. I would surely sell some books, even if no one came specifically to see me. I had been publicizing it widely in local newspapers and on the Internet so I was hopeful.
Love Hurts A Redcliffe Novel by paranormal author Catherine Green
My First Book Signing Event
As it was, I sold 6 books. This may not sound like a lot, but for an unknown author with a new book, it was pretty damn good! I am very pleased with the result, and with the whole experience in general. It has filled me with renewed vigour and hope for my second book-signing event in two weeks. The people that I met were very supportive and the bookshop staff was really helpful and accommodating.
Although I didnโt really expect my friends and family to drop everything and come and see me on their precious weekend day off, I must admit it was a little disappointing to see no familiar faces. Well, my father-in-law did turn up and he took some professional photographs (he is a photographer by trade, very useful!) to use on my websites. I did have a wonderful surprise when a great-Uncle and Aunt came to see me. I was really touched that even though they havenโt see me since I was a child, they took the time to come and show some support, and more importantly, bought some books.
Meeting the fans
When I first arrived there was a customer waiting for me, a lovely woman who supports local authors and wanted to read my book especially because of its Cornish setting. It was very amusing that every time I stood up to stretch my legs, customers would approach me to ask for assistance in the shop. Even though I wasnโt in uniform and had no name badge, apparently I looked like a member of staff! I suppose once you work in retail and customer service, you never really lose that professional, helpful stance and persona.
It was a useful learning experience. I had recently read a lot of negative stories in the media, saying that bookshops are in decline and people are no longer interested. Even in this small retail center, there were enough customers coming and going to fill me with confidence that the industry is still strong, and is still worth pursuing as a viable career. There were a lot of parents with young children, and many teenagers buying books. Not everyone has defected to the digital revolution just yet.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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What does it mean to be a “full-time mother?” If you have children then you are a full-time parent. It doesn’t matter if you have a job alongside parenting, or you volunteer for a cause, or you spend your time engaged in other tasks. You will always be a parent. And I will always be a full time mother.
Read my blog post and join the discussion about being a full time mum, what it means to be a working parent, and how we need to change the conversation around our attitudes towards parenting and career choices.
Spooky parenting lifestyle
Being a Full Time Mother
Today I was busy trying to catch up on menial household chores, when my mind wandered to the age-old debate about what it means to be a โfull-time mother.โ Personally I do not agree with this label at all. Every mother is full-time, even when her children have flown the nest. My own mother and my mother-in-law can testify to that.
I have recently come to the conclusion, along with my husband, that I will not return to my part-time paid employment when my maternity leave expires. It is simply not financially viable. The money we pay for childcare will pretty much eat up my entire monthly wage, which is ludicrous. And besides, I want to raise my daughter and enjoy our time together before she goes to school.
My other reasoning is that I am still working. I am a writer, and I will be focusing on turning that into a full-time paid occupation. And herein lies the quandary. At the moment people may describe me as a โfull-time mother and housewife.โ Indeed that is where the majority of my time is devoted. I have to clean the house and care for the baby while my husband is out at work. He works long hours, and commutes a fair distance, and even on weekends he is taken up with freelance part-time work and other pursuits.
How to fit a career around parenting
So where do I fit my career in? Because I work from home as a writer, and because as yet no one has offered me an advance book contract, or even a regular paid job writing features or articles, I cannot officially call it a job. However, just the other day, while out walking the dog, I calculated roughly how many hours a week I spend working on book promotions and writing blogs, stories and articles. I spend a minimum of 30 hours per week doing this.
So what is a โfull-time mother?โ Do I still come under that label, and do I simply spend 30 hours per week working on my โhobby?โ Officially, that is what it feels like. Even my own husband doesnโt seem to recognize the importance of my work. To him I am โthe motherโ and โthe housewife.โ That doesnโt make him a bad person. It just tells me that society is either going backwards, or hasnโt really learned much from the womenโs liberation movement in terms of average families.
Making the tough decision
I am not alone. Several of my friends have made the same decision to give up their full or part-time paid employment in order to stay at home with their children. And their husbands are working full-time because they can bring in the wage to pay for the house and expenses. No matter whether these women are studying part-time for further educational qualifications, or trying to pursue their own career aspirations, they will always be โthe motherโ and โthe housewifeโ first. And no matter how many people try to justify this by saying that it isnโt a bad thing to have such a label, that is not how we feel. We just get on with it, like all the other women in the same situation.
“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green
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