What Am I Doing Here?

I joined the social network for A Chronic Voice because I needed to find people who understand what life is like with chronic pain.

Today I have written a post using the March link-up prompts, to show my experience of living with a chronic pain disorder. Click here to find other blog posts from fellow chronic pain sufferers, or #spoonies as we call ourselves online.

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What Am I Doing Here?

Staying

Life is pretty boring right now. My daily routine revolves around the school run and caring for my family, alongside whatever part-time jobs I can fit in. I wanted to book a vacation for me and my children during the Easter school holiday, but now it looks like we are staying put due to restrictions from the coronavirus pandemic. I would usually send them to my mum’s house for a few days, and I probably will do, unless anything changes during the next few weeks. My mum has a chronic health condition and low immune system, so if coronavirus comes close to my town, I will have to stay away from Mum until I feel it is safe to see her again. It is all very unsettling, and yet for now our boring life is probably the best thing for all of us.

Doing

Despite my life being boring, I have been doing quite a lot during the past month. I took big steps in our home improvement project (well, my home improvement project – my husband refuses to get involved). It took me around four months to strip away the old anaglypta wallpaper that covered our lounge/dining room, and the floral anaglypta wallpaper in our hallway. I still have to finish stripping the hallway and move up to the landing, but I simply don’t have time for all of it. I did get tradesmen in to plaster over the holes that were left from our rewiring and central heating job eighteen months ago, and I feel a huge sense of accomplishment just for having this seemingly small job completed. Now I can seriously consider doing some decorating and putting my personality into our living room. Exciting times!

Being

I am a busy human being, what with family demands, home improvement projects, a large garden to maintain, a rescue dog to train and settle, and my freelance writing work. I like to be busy, but I also recognise when it is time to settle down and be quiet. My reiki practice is what keeps me sane when the world overwhelms me. It is very hard living with a spouse that has severe mental health challenges but refuses to seek medical help. It is very hard feeling like a single parent because of these mental health challenges. Sometimes all I can do is be a human being, which means screaming and shouting to vent my frustration, or meditating to bring in some reiki self-healing energy and regain control of my frazzled mind and body.

Targeting

So, what is the next item on my target list? This week it is a rather sad one: attending my grandad’s funeral. My family has been through huge challenges for the past year, with my Nan, my Mum and my aunts caring for both my uncle and my grandad as their health declined and they finally succumbed, one to cancer, one to old age. My target here is to hold it together and be strong for my family. There has been all sorts of drama and tension, which is to be expected after such stressful times. We are all targeting a better quality of life going forward, where we can grieve quietly and move on with our own plans and activities.

Weighing

My mind is heavy with lots of deep thoughts. Due to the way my life has been recently, and the fact that I feel underappreciated and taken for-granted, I am weighing up my options for how to improve my mood. Some days it feels like I want to run away and start afresh, but I know that is not the answer. Some days I feel thankful for my place in my safe, little life. Other days I want something bigger and more spectacular, but I don’t know what that is. Ultimately whatever life choices I make will impact on my daughters, and so I will weigh up all possibilities before I reach a considered and sensible solution.

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Strong Women and Death Midwifery

This week began with International Women’s Day, which passed quietly in my family because we are recovering from a very traumatic time.

Late last year my uncle deteriorated and finally lost his battle with brain cancer. The whole family managed to visit him both in the hospital and the hospice where he spent his last days. At around the same time our grandad (and my uncle’s dad) began to fade away. He was in and out of hospital, and with each visit we thought it was his last. He was a military man, however, and I believe that he had trained his body to withstand the worst kind of strain, which explains why he finally passed away last week, almost four months since he began the decline towards death.

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Strong Women and Death Midwifery

Today I want to celebrate the strong women in my family (myself included), who have helped support each other and those people who died. I learned about death midwifery from books, although I can’t tell you where exactly I found the phrase. It basically means supporting someone as they die, much the same as midwives in hospital support mothers as they bring new life into the world.

I think in Western society we have forgotten how to celebrate older people, and when they become frail and ill, we leave them in the care of health professionals and tell ourselves that’s the best we can do. Not my family. My Nan has nursed Grandad for over ten years, and they were together for 66 years. She was devoted to him, even though they frequently argued. Their love for each other was clearly obvious, no matter what trivial incidents might put them at odds. The past four months or so have been exhausting for my Nan, and for my mum and my aunts. My cousins also helped with the passing of our uncle and our grandad, as did our other uncle (by marriage). We are a big family!

Nursing our dying family members

Watching my family members nursing the dying and the elderly has touched me in ways that I cannot explain. All those strong women (and men, not forgetting our uncle and male cousins) are brilliant for the unrecognised work that they do for family and beyond. My Nan refused to send grandad to a care home in his final months because she was determined to be with him to the bitter end. Perhaps she pushed herself too far, but I know that she is proud and satisfied that she did her job as wife and mother. Now she can grieve for her lost son and her husband, and we can all come to terms with a new family dynamic.

It is not easy to care for a dying person. There are the practical elements of physical care, assisting with personal hygiene and feeding, administering medicine, and then there are the emotional and mental implications. I won’t give the gory details out of respect for my family, but they all worked very hard to ensure that Grandad and Uncle Bill were not alone when they finally passed away. And I am very thankful that they were able to do that.

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Top Gift Ideas for Mother’s Day

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#BookReview: “You Let Me In” by Camilla Bruce

I received an advanced review copy of “You Let Me In” by Camilla Bruce due to my being a contemporary English Gothic novelist. The blurb sounded intriguing, and I love the idea of it being a story within a story, meaning we don’t know what or who to believe right from the start.

Can you ever really believe what an author tells you? That question has never occurred to me before, but now I think about it, our reality can be very different from the realities of our readers. But enough of that. Back to the story.

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My review of “You Let Me In” by Camilla Bruce

You Let Me In is creepy and disturbing right from the start. We begin by learning that the reclusive author, Cassandra Tipp, is surrounded by mistrust following the apparently violent death of her husband many years earlier. We then learn that Cassandra has disappeared and has left instructions with her lawyers that her niece and nephew should visit her home and find out the truth about their strange aunt. I was hooked in right from the start, loving the traditional theme of mystery and suspense. There was a lot of description that put me right there in the story, and I could almost picture the author’s house in the woods near my home.

Then the story turned even darker, and the real fairy tale was revealed. These are faeries of old, living from the land and the people they connect with, taking their lifeblood and forever entwining them in a world that is dark, deadly and where nothing is as it seems. Did Cassandra literally run away with the faeries in the end? I don’t know. All I know is that there were parts of this novel that disturbed me, but I couldn’t stop reading it. I felt like I intruded on a world that I am not meant to be a part of, and it’s a world that I am quite happy to leave well alone. If you like your stories creepy and Gothic, then you will enjoy this!

About the book

Everyone knew bestselling novelist Cassandra Tipp had twice got away with murder.

Even her family were convinced of her guilt. So when she disappears, leaving only a long letter behind, they can but suspect that her conscience finally killed her.

But the letter is not what anyone expected. It tells two chilling, darkly disturbing stories.
One is a story of children lost to the woods, of husbands made from twigs and leaves and feathers and bones . . .

The other is the story of a little girl who was cruelly treated and grew up crooked in the shadows . . .

But which story is true? And where is Cassie now?

Buy the Book: Amazon; Waterstones.

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My Spiritual Toolbox

What is a spiritual toolbox and why do you need one? For me a spiritual toolbox is a collection of exercises, rituals, songs, videos and whatever else makes me feel relaxed and happy.

As a reiki practitioner you might expect me to be in a constant state of zen-like bliss, radiating calm and serenity. I have young children and a mischievous dog, however, so some days my zen seems very far away!

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My Spiritual Toolbox by Catherine Green

My Spiritual Toolbox

The beauty of creating a spiritual toolbox is that you can make it whatever you want it to be. I have piles of notebooks with information jotted down that I find in books and articles. These include Tarot card readings, incantations, meditations and symbols that resonate with me on a deep level, making me feel connected to a world beyond the physical. They give me hope that there is a bigger picture, and that my mundane reality is not the only one available. There are specific books in my spiritual toolbox, like my reiki course manuals. I can read these whenever I need a boost. I have incense, scented candles, and smudge sticks to cleanse the air in my home and help clean my aura when it feels clogged and murky. I also have a collection of crystals, and I pick which ones I feel drawn to on different days, or when I am working towards specific goals, so that they might help in my task.

Of course, it isn’t all about spiritual or magical items. My spiritual toolbox also currently includes regular playtime on a game app that I enjoy. It helps me to relax when I feel stressed, and it gives me enormous satisfaction when I crack the puzzles. I enjoy drinking wine or gin, and I like to eat chocolate and sweets. These all add up to my spiritual toolbox, because they help to make me feel better when I am stressed or cheer me up when I feel down. What is in your spiritual toolbox?

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Should I Rehome a Rescue Dog?

Are you looking for a family dog? Wondering whether to buy a puppy or rehome an older dog?

Here is my story about rehoming a rescue dog, I hope you find it helpful.

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Should I Rehome a Rescue Dog?

The past three months have been a steep learning curve for me. Following the death of our old dog last summer, I was pining for a new furry companion, and I wanted to rescue another dog. The task proved harder than I imagined because rehoming centres in the UK have very strict policies about how they rehome their dogs. Some are reluctant to offer dogs to families with young children, others simply have ridiculous requirements that most people are unable to fulfil. Then they wonder why the dogs develop anxiety, aggression and other difficult behavioural traits. But that’s just my experience.

Anyway, we did find a dog that needed a home. His name is Marley, and he is almost 3 years old. He never went into the dogs’ home, his previous owner contacted them for help and that’s how we found him. Marley has never been in kennels to my knowledge. I thought he would be easy to settle in. His previous owner assured me that he was friendly with other dogs, that he was relaxed with children, and that he was generally easy going. That is not our experience! He is wonderful with our children, which is a huge relief. He lets them pull him around and he never snaps at them in anger. He does like to play rough, however, so we have to watch what he does. And he steals their toys and eats them. He has chewed up a variety of Playmobil and Lego pieces so far, some Barbie accessories and some teddies. He just wants to play! I spend a lot of time watching him around the house and moving things out of his reach when the children neglect to tidy them away properly.

Be Prepared for the Challenge

Another challenge we discovered was that Marley can jump very high. He cleared the two-foot fences in our back garden despite being overweight when he came to us. We have now spent over £1000 on new fencing to secure the back garden and keep him contained. He still tries to escape though, so we have to watch him when he is outside. And he is not allowed in our front garden because he jumps over the wall and runs across the road. I am constantly on alert with this dog! We did have our garden checked by the people at the dogs’ home, and they thought it was secure at the time, so be aware that all dogs are unpredictable.

Now that we have rectified that dilemma, I am learning to discipline Marley while out walking. He has clearly not been socialised with other dogs, and he gets very snappy and aggressive. I believe he is being defensive due to anxiety, and I hope that he will settle eventually. For now I have invested in a Halti harness and a training lead which made a huge difference to his behaviour. I can now easily control him when he tries to lunge forwards, and he doesn’t bark as much when he is wearing it.

Our Previous Rescue Dog

My previous dog was rescued from the streets, but we had him for a few years before our children came along. We had time to devote to settling him in and training him, and he proved to be a wonderful family dog. Marley is also a wonderful family dog, but he is a work in progress. He must have been lonely and bored in his previous home, but now we are setting boundaries, giving him time to adjust, and giving him attention, which is what he needs. Please consider rehoming a rescue dog but be fully aware of the time and work involved in settling a dog. The same could be said for buying a puppy. Ultimately, having a dog is like having a child. They are wonderful when they behave, not so much when they are hard work. Be prepared, put the effort in, and you will have a loving companion that will always be there with cuddles and smiles. Dogs are great for keeping you busy and they are fantastic therapy aids.

Do you have a rescue dog? Are you considering getting a dog? Please share your experiences.

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Support Your Local Charities #WATWB

We Are the World BlogFest (#WATWB) celebrates special people and small stories of inspiration and hope in the world. Today I want to celebrate my family members who support local charities.

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Support Your Local Charities

My cousin recently raised money for the Douglas Macmillan hospice in Stoke-on-Trent, Staffordshire, following the death of our uncle late last year. You can read her story here. I was impressed not only with her motivation to action the charity appeal, but for the care that she helped provide for our family during my uncle’s final days. She took a real interest in the work of the nurses in hospital and those at the hospice, and it has inspired her to consider pursuing a career in palliative care, something I think we can all agree is very important and vital. My cousin was supported by her parents and siblings, and a wider network of family and friends. We all pulled together to raise money in thanks for the care that Douglas Macmillan gave to our uncle when he needed it.

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Ellen Griffiths Stoke-on-Trent Live #WATWB

In other news, I attended a short presentation with my daughter’s Brownies Girl Guides unit as they presented a cheque to Mid Cheshire Hospitals Charity following a charity drive. The Brownies spent time carol singing in our local Morrisons supermarket just before Christmas and raised a sum of money for Leighton Hospital to use in their Lost Little Ones campaign, providing space and care for bereaved families. Most of our Brownies and their families have visited Leighton Hospital, indeed it feels like a second home for me as we investigate a health concern with my younger daughter. Both my children were born in that hospital, and we like to help when we can and show our support, even if it is just to throw a few coins in a bucket and help build some funds that they can use. Small communities can make big changes!

We are the World BlogFest (#WATWB) focuses on positive stories no matter where they’re found. It is all about spreading peace and humanity on social media. All participants post on the last Friday of the month, sharing a positive news story that contributes to making our world a happier, safer, and better place to live.

You can find more about #WATWB from the following hosts:

Sylvia McGrath, Eric Lahti, and Belinda Witzenhausen

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Daily Tarot Reading

My last Tarot reading reflected a time of emotional and personal turmoil. While those situations are not yet resolved, I have reached a point where I feel mostly calm. I have even begun to feel bored again, wondering what to do next to liven up my dull routine…

Are you feeling bored? Perhaps today’s Daily Tarot Reading will offer some guidance.

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Daily Tarot reading by Catherine Green

Daily Tarot Reading

1, Work – Page of Swords & Ten of Pentacles

Are you allowing other people to dictate the way you work? Maybe you feel undervalued. Now is a good time to assert your authority. Step up and own your natural skills and ability. Your talent is valid and deserving of praise. Be bold and pursue what fulfills you.

2, Home – Ace of Swords

You have lots of ideas and now is the time to make them reality. Start with the small tasks and you will feel better able to envision the bigger projects that you face. Now is as good a time as any to get started!

3, Unexpected – Nine of Swords

Are you prone to depression or anxiety? If not, then you might be surprised when a sudden bout of panic hits you. Whilst life has settled down again, a change of circumstance could knock your confidence and leave you reeling. Be aware and know that you will come through the challenge.

4, Your Role – The Devil

When you are bored, your attitude may become more reckless. You may find yourself tempted to do something out of character, to take a risk. Is it worth it? Consider what you would throw away for a quick fix of fun. Maybe that cake would spoil your carefully controlled diet. Perhaps you feel tempted to do something destructive in your personal relationship. Take a moment to assess the pros and cons.

5, Outcome – Four of Pentacles

Trust your own judgement in matters of personal finance. While you were taught to obey authority figures, in this situation you know best. You have work to do, but you have started. Now you must see it through to the end. Continue to research and record all options, and you will be happy with the result. Remember, it will take time, but it will be worth the effort.

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Why we Shouldn’t Worry about the Kids

I waste a lot of time worrying about my children. Are they happy, are they hungry, are they thirsty, do they need more discipline, am I being too hard on them, am I being too soft on them, do they need a bath, are they clean, are they healthy… the list goes on.

Recently I have fixated on issues relating to their grandad and his acquired brain injury.

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End-to-End Cycle Ride Challenge from Lands’ End to John O’Groats

Why we Shouldn’t Worry about the Kids

We have had a long six years coming to terms with the aftermath of my father-in-law having a serious, almost fatal, cycling accident. At the time he was a vibrant, forceful personality and he was training to cycle from one end of Ireland to the other, having previously cycled from Lands’ End to John O’Groats. He was always busy and active, and he was keen to spend retirement having quality time with his wife and grandchildren.

Then our life got flipped upside down on one fateful morning in March 2014. He collided with a horse box, we don’t the full details of the accident, and we never will. Police ruled that it was his fault, but he has never been able to tell us, since he spent four weeks in a coma, twelve months in a secure psychiatric facility, and three years in a secure rehabilitation home. He now lives in the full-time care of my mother-in-law, which comes with more challenges because she lives with poor mental health, high anxiety and depression. He used to care for her throughout their long marriage. Now he can barely speak to her, and he needs reminding to do simple daily tasks like get out of bed or go to the bathroom.

The impact on our children

I worry about the impact it has on our children, having to see their grandad like this. Their grandma can rarely give them her full attention because she is busy caring for him, and when we go on holiday or family day trips, we have to be mindful about where we go and what we do so that he can come with us. He can walk but only short distances, so we have to take a wheelchair. He gets anxious in busy places and I know he is self-conscious about people seeing him out in public, even though he can’t articulate his feelings. He would rather stay at home and sit in front of the TV, which can be quite awkward when we don’t know what to say to him. He talks in short, stilted sentences, and doesn’t always make sense.

I have come to realise that our children are a lot more resilient than we might think. For example, recently we had to “grandad-sit” while grandma went to her weekly exercise class. It was a school night and I needed to bath the children. He needed the toilet and we only have one bathroom. I worried about the fact that the girls were in the bath, so I told them to pull the shower curtain across to give them some privacy. I heard shrieks of laughter as Grandad did his business, and the girls giggled because he smiled at them when he left the room. We are just one family stumbling along and learning to live in the wake of serious trauma. And the kids are absolutely fine.

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Why I am Proud to be a Housewife (Hearth Witch)

“Mummy,” said my 6-year-old daughter, “Do you want to go and work in the chip shop again?”

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Why I am Proud to be a Housewife (Hearth Witch)

So began a conversation with my daughters about where I used to work. The local chip shop was a part-time job while I attended college as a teenager. I then explained to my daughters how I worked in a jewellery shop, did a few years on seasonal contracts at a theme park, and moved on to office work in customer service and logistics. All of this stopped when I decided to start a family with my husband. Back then I was working part-time as a shop assistant and trying to develop my freelance writing business. I was hopelessly naïve about the whole industry, relentlessly positive about the good things that could come, and I stubbornly went ahead with my dreams, much to my husband’s dismay.

Settled into the role of housewife

Fast forward several years and I am now settled into the role of housewife, or as I more recently decided, Hearth Witch. I am reading a book called The House Witch: Your Complete Guide to Creating a Magical Space with Rituals and Spells for Hearth and Home. The book is simple and practical. It reminds me that I already practice as a hearth witch. Currently I am working hard to redecorate our house and make it into a home that reflects our family personality (well, mainly mine!). Every day I make sure my children are clean, fed and their basic needs are met. I care for my husband, who works ridiculously long hours outside the home and battles with severe anxiety and OCD. I am training and settling our rescue dog into the family, and he needs time. I ensure that groceries are bought, meals are prepared, clothes are washed, and the house and garden are mostly neat and tidy. All of this is hard work, and important work. Without it we could all end up sick and hungry.

I need to be a good role model

For years I have battled with the need to be a good role model to my children, to show them that there is life outside of the home, and that they can be whatever they want to be. I used to have vague dreams about working in the media, but the industry has changed a lot since I was a child, and I didn’t have many of the opportunities that might have helped me to progress a career. It took me a while to recognise that I just didn’t have the personality required to be a journalist or broadcaster. I am naturally a quiet person. I am not shy; I just don’t feel the need to talk constantly. I am happy in a quiet, peaceful space. I am happy working at home, with my dog for company, doing my writing and caring for my family. Why should I change what feels natural? Are you living a natural life? Does your job fulfil you, or are you still searching for a place to belong?

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“It’s Complicated” (A Redcliffe Short Story) by paranormal author Catherine Green

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