Romantic relationships are a lot of hard work – harder than regular friendships or acquaintances that you might have with your colleagues. That’s because romance matters to people. Your partner isn’t just another guy down at the office – they’re the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Improving romantic relationships isn’t easy. Both people arrive with plenty of baggage, disappointments, fears and troubled histories. Some even have trauma from previous experiences.
Fortunately, there are some things that you can do to improve your relationships, all backed by science. In this post, we take a look at what they are. Read on to learn more.
Get Comfortable With Yourself
Healthy relationships often happen if at least one person is comfortable with themselves. Problems usually emerge if you are insecure or have tendencies that will drive the other person away.
If you are able to make yourself beautiful on the inside, you will transmit that to the other person. When you are in that state, you know that you can remain at ease, regardless of the dysfunction of the other person.
Find Ways To Make It Fun
Relationships shouldn’t be hard work the whole time. There should be a lot of fun in there too. Without fun, it’s hard for either party to really know why they are in the relationship in the first place.
There are plenty of ways to introduce a little fun. You could go on a trip, play a game or introduce a new body stocking to the bedroom. You could also just focus on doing a project together that requires both of you to concentrate, thereby avoiding arguments.
Accept Differences And Let Them Go
If your partner was identical to you, that would be a little boring. It would be like talking to the mirror all day. You would know immediately what it was going to say back to you.
Accepting differences means that you are loving your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be. Yes – you naturally feel the urge to make them the same as you, but you’ll want to move past that. The other person in the relationship can no more conform to your personality than you can to theirs.
Choose A Goal That Inspires You Both
Romanticism leads us to believe that relationships are all about love. But mushy feelings aren’t enough. You want something in the background encouraging couples to stay together.
The best way to do this is to choose a goal that inspires you both. When you have a separate project that has nothing to do with romance, the relationship takes on a whole new dimension. It’s no longer just about what you feel, but also what you can achieve.
Parent Each Other
Lastly, you can each take it in turns to parent each other. Nobody is a fully-fledged adult. We all have moments when we need parental figures in our lives to guide us. Facilitating that role can bring couples closer together and builds trust.
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*This is a collaborative article